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Tips for Building Resilience

Resilience is a buzzword. For me, resilience doesn't just magically appear when I need it. In fact, I find it's much harder to feel resilient when I'm low already. It takes effort to build resilience ... and also reflection (and more effort!) to tap into resilient feelings, especially in tough times like these. After the train crash 3+ years ago, I had to dig deeper into myself than I ever had before just to be able to get up in the morning and try to put one foot in front of the other. Some days it was near impossible. I needed strength that I didn't feel I had. My husband bought me this artwork and it really resonated with me and helped me dig deep and keep going. That's resilience: finding and harnessing strength, even if you don't feel strong.

1. Here's a 4-minute guided self-Havening video you can watch to build up your resilience. Before you watch it, i's really important to connect with the feeling of being strong/resilient. You may need to work at this bit. Here are two options for bringing up feelings of strength:

  • Think back to a time in your life when you faced a daunting obstacle and you were able in that moment to dig deep and find the inner strength to put one foot in front of the other towards your goal. Feel how that felt in that moment to find such strength.

  • If you are finding that approach a challenge, think about a situation you had where, upon reflection now, you realize that you overcame a difficult obstacle. In hindsigtht, can you view yourself as having been resilient? Tap into that feeling.

Then, click here to amplify those feelings of strength and resilience using this 7-minute guided Self-Havening video:

2. Every Sunday at 8 pm, I host a FREE 1-hr Deep Calm webinar for reducing negative emotions and building inner strength and resilience. Try one out, or consider making it a weekly self-care practice to build your resilience. More info and link to register here:

3. One last thought. I can't feel resilient when I am not taking care of my body, too. Sleep is absolutely essential - good sleep and enough of it. If you're feeling exhausted, give in to it and rest! Your body is telling you something. And, hydrate and try to eat good healthy foods. Easier said than done, I know - last week I ate 5 cupcakes in one sitting and later that night I had a bowl of ice cream. But of course I felt weak in the moment and, worse still, sluggish and depressed the next day. What good did that do me? It certainly didn't help me feel strong, that's for sure. I know and love each of the three nutritionists below, and they are all available for free consultations and tips. So just call one of them. As Nike says, just do it! You'll feel empowered just taking a step forward to build your strength and resilience.

As a reminder, I will never recommend anything I don't use, and I'm not getting any kickbacks or anything when I mention other practitioners or products. I'm just trying to share what helps me so it might help you, too.

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Stay safe and healthy!  Sending love and support … if you need more help, just reach out.

Elena Kindler

Certified Havening Techniques® Practitioner

Metamorphosis Havening LLC


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